Girls' and Boys' Problem Talk: Implications for Emotional Closeness in Friendships

Authors
Rose, A.J Smith, R.L. Glick, G.C. Schwartz-Mette, R.A.
Publication year
2016
Citation Title
Girls’ and boys’ problem talk: Implications for emotional closeness in friendships.
Journal Name
Developmental Psychology
Journal Volume
52
Issue Number
4
Page Numbers
629-639
DOI
10.1037/dev0000096
Summary
Youth vary in their tendency to discuss problems and provide support in friendship, which can have important implications on relationship quality and emotional closeness among friends. This study explored gender differences in discussions about problems and friendship outcomes among youth. Findings show that there were gender differences in the level of participation, response to the problem, and friendship outcomes among the participants.
Key Findings
While discussing problems, girls participated more than boys by talking about their own problems and friend-related problems. Girls provided positive responses (e.g., supportive statements, asking questions) and changed the subject during discussions about problems more than boys.
Girls used humor as a response to discussions about problems more than boys in seventh grade. But, boys used humor more than girls in the tenth grade. Using humor as a response type was associated with feeling closer with a friend only among boys.
While discussing problems, boys gave as much advice to their friends as girls.
Positive response types such as agreement, supportiveness, and asking questions were associated with feeling closer to a friend over time. Negative response types such as changing the topic during discussion were associated with feeling less close with a friend over time.
Implications for Military Professionals
Attend trainings to enhance ability to provide support to youth who are struggling with maintaining healthy relationships with peers
Collaborate with organizations connected with youth to emphasize the importance of positively resolving conflicts during discussions
Implications for Program Leaders
Encourage activities and curricula that provide opportunities for teamwork with same-gendered as well as opposite-gendered youth
Disseminate information to youth regarding available community resources to deal with problems relating to peer pressure and unhealthy peer relationships

Implications for Policy Makers
Continue to support evidence-based programs that build and foster healthy relationships among peers during youth
Recommend positive youth development training centered on the development of gender norms and gender identity
Methods
Data were obtained across three consecutive summers from seventh and tenth graders attending public school. Youth who participated were asked to choose a close friend who wasn't a relative and join the study along with them.
Participants completed questionnaires and were asked to create a list of problems they were facing. Participants then discussed their problems with the friend for sixteen minutes.
Participants provided self-report data on the emotional closeness felt with a friend prior to and nine months after the study concluded using two items from the Friendship Quality Questionnaire and two items from the Friendship Qualities scale.
Participants
Participants were 628 seventh and tenth graders; 314 were tenth graders and 314 were seventh graders.
The average age of the seventh graders was 13.01 years and the average age of the tenth graders was 16.03 years.
Participants identified as 62.76% White, 29.21% Black, 3.73% Latino, 5.78% multiracial, and less than 2% as Native American, Asian, and Pacific Islander. In the study, the reported racial/ethnic makeup of the participants exceeded 100%.
Limitations
Participants' behavior in the research laboratory may be different from the way they usually interact with friends in school or other informal settings which could have impacted their self-reported emotional closeness data results.
The feeling of closeness in friendship can vary depending on time spent with each other or support received from the friend; none of which were assessed. Therefore, it is unclear how these factors might have affected emotional closeness among participants.
Since the assessment time points were only nine months apart, feelings of emotional closeness with a friend may not have had enough time to change.
Avenues for Future Research
Conduct longitudinal studies to examine association between responsiveness during discussions and emotion closeness with friends across the life span
Investigate the impact of empathy and altruism on relationship satisfaction among friends
Utilize assessment measures other than self-report, such as behavioral observations in different social settings (e.g., school and home) by diverse observers (e.g., parents, siblings, teachers, etc.)
Design Rating
2 Stars - There are some flaws in the study design or research sample, but those flaws do not significantly threaten the ability to make conclusions based on the data.
Methods Rating
3 Stars - The definitions and measurement of variables is done thoroughly and without any bias and conclusions are drawn directly from the analyses performed.
Limitations Rating
1 Star - There are several factors that limit the ability to extend the results to a population and therefore the results can only be extended to a very specific subset of the population.
Focus
Civilian
Population Focus
Abstract
This research highlights the critical role of gender in the context of problem talk and social support in adolescents' friendships. Early-and middle-adolescents' (N ϭ 314 friend dyads; Ms ϭ 13.01 and 16.03 years) conversations about problems were studied using observation and a short-term longitudinal design. Mean-level gender differences emerged in that girls participated in problem talk more than boys and responded in a more positive and engaged manner to friends' statements about problems (e.g., by saying something supportive, asking a question) than did boys. Interestingly, boys used humor during problem talk more than girls. Despite mean-level differences, there were not gender differences in the functional significance of participating in problem talk and positive engaged responses in that these behaviors predicted increased friendship closeness for both boys and girls. In contrast, humor during problem talk predicted increased closeness only for boys, highlighting an understudied pathway to closeness in boys' friendships. The relational orientations of girls are more communal and interdependent as compared to boys. These orientations play out in a variety of ways in girls' and boys' relationships, including their tendency to talk about problems in friendships. Using an observational assessment, the current study of adolescents aimed to replicate previous work indicating that girls talk with friends about problems more than boys and to extend past research by examining in detail how girls and boys respond to friends' statements about problems (e.g., by offering support, changing the subject). Importantly, in addition to examining mean-level gender differences, the current study considered whether there are gender differences in the functional significance of problem talk in friendships. That is, a short-term prospective design was used to test whether the impact of problem talk on changes over time in adolescents' feelings of closeness in friendships differed for girls and boys. Of particular interest was whether (or not) behaviors that are particularly common among among girls or boys also have an especially strong impact on friendship for that gender. In addition, boys' use of humor during problem talk was considered as a possible under-studied pathway to friendship closeness for boys.
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